PEM’s and PEM – How I try to cope

Peggy loves to use multiple exclamation marks when she writes. Probably to her chagrin, I edit them out. I refer to it as PEM’s or “Peggy Exclamation Marks”.

One of the reasons I retired was after seeing clients I was exhausted for days.  Because I felt fine when I was in session I largely ignored crashing afterwards.  Besides I was used to feeling exhausted socializing, exercising or even taking a shower.  

Having been diagnosed with fibromyalgia/chronic fatigue in 1996 I am relatively well versed in research, symptoms and treatment.  However, I just recently came across the term PEM!  I did a double take.

Turns out that, in relation to chronic fatigue and fibro, PEM stands for Post-Exertional Malaise and has nothing to do with Peggy’s excitement.  I was gobsmacked to find a name for what I thought was just a weird reaction, I alone had, to anything stressful, whether positive or negative.

This is how “gobsmacked” looks

How do I explain that I dread taking a shower because it fatigues me.  How do I tell friends I don’t want to get together because “they” exhaust me?  I constantly evaluate cost/benefit of whether any activity is worth hours or days of exhaustion afterwards.

It’s a relief to put a name to my experience:

“Post-exertional malaise (PEM) is the worsening of symptoms following even minor physical or mental exertion, with symptoms typically worsening 12 to 48 hours after activity and lasting for days or even weeks. PEM can be mitigated by activity management (pacing). The goal is to avoid PEM flare-ups and illness relapses by balancing rest and activity.” CDC.gov

Some of my coping mechanisms.  

  • I avoid telephone conversation.  E-mail is one-way – my pace, my time and not as energy depleting as two-way conversations.
  • I watch lots of Hallmark TV moviesthere’s always a happy ending.  Any violence or tension sends my brain into over-drive.  
  • I eat constantly Food gives us energy.  So far all it’s given me is a roll of fat around my middle.
  • I live vicariously through friends and fellow bloggers who travel to far away places. I daydream of moving to live in another country.  My day dream always includes a villa in Southern France with servants. 
  • I try to find humor in life . . . “try” being the operant word.  
  • I never take a daily shower.  I figure the sweat will help the dirt roll off.
  • I take 3 hour naps immediately after I wake up in the morning.

Now I know why I edit out PEM’s (the Peggy kind).  Exclamation is exhausting . . .

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Don’t let her kid you, Judy is very successful at finding humor in life, to the delight of us all !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Peggy

Fur Fun: All God’s Creatures

If cats and pups can cozy up 

Why oh why can’t we

lie down with our “enemy”?

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“Do not exalt yourselves above others, but consider all as your equals, recognizing them as the servants of one God.” Bahai World Faith, Abdu’l-Baha

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“If we go to the fundamental level, we are the same human being. … Seven billion human beings are the same human being.”  Dalai Lama

 

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1 Corinthians 1:10 

“I appeal to you, brothers, by the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that all of you agree, and that there be no divisions among you, but that you be united in the same mind and the same judgment.”

Thanks Dr. Carolyn M.!

CATegorical Purrrrrspective

Everything I know about men, I learned from my CAT.

by Peggy

Stroke them every day to show that you appreciate them.

Can’t think of anything “significant” to appreciate? . . . A cat doesn’t need to do anything to get your loving attention . . . that’s the “tooth”.

Calendar (small) from this series available on zazzle. Click here. 

Naturally Nude Smart Broads Society

No purple & red hats. Your commitment is to forgo 2 items promoted by the cosmetic industry. (ex. Wrinkle cream, contouring make-up, grey touch-up coloring, lip fillers, eyebrow tattoos . . .)

We will meet in the fall in Paris and in the spring in Italy to buy our couture wardrobe; in the summer on the East Coast and in the winter on the West Coast to practice being classy broads. 

Our inspiration for being a “Naturally Nude Smart Broad” is Christine Lagarde.

She’s a model of how to grow “older” gracefully and not pander to “beauty products”

(even when you can afford them).

Elegant,
Natural hair, nails, eye lashes, minimal makeup….French couture wardrobe

Here’s a bit about Christine Lagarde:

 A French lawyer and on 28 June 2011, she was named as the next managing director of the International Monetary Fund for a five-year term, (replacing Dominique Strauss-Kahn in the aftermath of his sexual assault legal case) managing emergencies as head of the trillion-dollar International Monetary Fund

On November 2019, she will take on a new crisis as president of the European Central Bank, trying to keep the world’s second largest economy stable as it is battered by trade wars, Brexit and historic uncertainty.

 Previously, she held various ministerial posts in the French government: she was Minister of Economic Affairs, Finances and Industry and before that Minister of Agriculture and Fishing and Minister of Trade in the government of Dominique de Villepin. Lagarde was the first woman ever to become minister of Economic Affairs of a G7 economy, and is the first woman to ever head the IMF.

A noted antitrust and labour lawyer, Lagarde made history as the first female chair of the international law firm Baker & McKenzie. On 16 November 2009, The Financial Times ranked her the best minister of finance of the Eurozone.  In 2009, Lagarde was ranked the 17th most powerful woman in the world by Forbes magazine.

Wikipedia  

Naturally Nude Smart Broads Society:  Pearls & champagne required, broaches are optional.

Are you with us?  (Peggy & judy)