Men-Women Relationships: Batter Up! Play Ball!


“I never blame myself when I’m not hitting. I just blame the bat and if it keeps up, I change bats. After all, if I know it isn’t my fault that I’m not hitting, how can I get mad at myself? 


(Is THAT a description of marriage and divorce, or what?)

I met with my Marvelous Men’s group today as I do every Tuesday.  We joke about marvelous men but for me these are truly exceptional men.  Willing to explore their own pain, their lives, their relationships, their fears and their dreams.  Takes a lot of courage to do that.  Takes strength to push through to places most of us would rather not go.

There sometimes is  “sports talk” — for group “warm-up” or as metaphor for what is happening in their lives.  Whenever the men start spouting sports: names of players, batting records, wins/loses etc. I refer to it as going to “sports hell”. . . everyone laughs but they probably relish the male “bonding” and knowing about things I don’t know (since I’m suppose to be the “seasoned player”).


As the only female present these men have taught me as much about relationships and men as I perhaps have taught them about the rules of the “game”. (I don’t dare tell them that! They’ll bill me.)

When you think about it, some of us are team players and others love the competition of being an individual athlete.  We all play by rules, we all break the rules, none of us completely understands the rules and in relationships we find a way to rule.
Win or lose we are all in the same game.  Sports Hell is a cool place to be.

“You’ve got to be very careful if you don’t know where you are going, because you might not get there.”
Yogi Berra

As a player, manager, and linguist of sorts, Yogi Berra has endeared himself to baseball fans since World War II as a hard-working, rough-edged original. As a New York Yankee he developed into a masterful catcher as well as an outstanding hitter. He won the Most Valuable Player (MVP) award in 1951, 1954, and 1955, and was elected to the Baseball Hall of Fame in 1972. Including his work as a coach and manager, Berra has been involved in a record twenty-one World Series. His influence on the sport is reflected by a list of “25 Greatest Moments” in baseball compiled by The Sporting News in 1999: Berra figures in ten of the moments in one fashion or another. Throughout his career, Berra has also been famous for uttering “Yogi-isms,” which pass as malapropisms except for their often strange, but persuasive logic.

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