Men would say to their secretaries: “File this”, “Get George on the phone”, I’m going to lunch”. Women CEO’s would say “Would you please file this”, “I’d like to speak to George” “Just want to let you know I’m going to lunch now.”
I suspect that if I or the women CEO’s spoke like the male CEO’s we would be perceived as a b _ _ _ _.
If the Males spoke like the women the men would be perceived as a “softy” or “not decisive”.
Language certainly can create our perception of our world AND how we are perceived.
My fellow (is there a feminine version – “fella”) workshop facilitator and Hypnotherapist par excellence Laurie Miller www.hypnosisconcepts.com posted a list that was written sometime in the 1960′s by George Hasslein, FAIA Professor & Founding Dean, School of Architecture and Environmental Design, Cal Pol, San Luis Obispo,
How does this relate to men and women’s communication? After I copied and pasted, getting ready to post, I was uncomfortable. Something didn’t feel right.
Kept rereading and rereading trying to figure out why I was uncomfortable. I agreed with Dr Hasslein’s premise and found it inspiring enough to post. I decided to edit and realized my communication as a woman considerably softened the impact.
Dr. Hasslein’s original is in blue, my edit is in pink. How would you say it?
- People are unreasonable, illogical, self-centered.
Some people are unreasonable, illogical, self-centered.
Love them anyway.
- If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish motives.
If you do good, you might be accused of selfish motives.
Do good anyway.
- If you are successful, you will win false friends and real enemies.
If you are successful, you could win false friends and real enemies.
Try to be successful anyway.
- The good you do will be forgotten tomorrow.
You may not get credit for the good you do.
Do it anyway.
- Honesty and frankness will make you vulnerable
Honesty and frankness can make you vulnerable
Be honest and frank anyway.
- People favor the underdog, but they chum up to the top dog.
Most people favor the underdog, but they chum up to the top dog.
Fight for the underdog anyway.
- What you spend years building can be destroyed overnight.
What you spend years building can be destroyed overnight.
- Give the world the best you have and chances are you will get kicked in the teeth.
Give the world the best you have and you might not get the best back.