In my teen years it was not “cool” to admit you did anything well, much less brag. You were suppose to be humble. It seems times have not changed. When I admire someone’s drawing in art class the usual response is to point out why it’s not very good and point out all the mistakes they made. Is this humility?
We all are probably our own worst critics but I was wondering where the origins of this denying of our accomplishments comes from. There are many students in class who have immigrated from other countries – Germany, China, Latvia, Vietnam, Korea – and at first I chalked it up to cultural norms. However, the students native to the United States downplay or outright devalue their accomplishments too.
Is this false humility? Inability to celebrate our accomplishments? Embarrassment?
Having posted my journey in life drawing classes I can see where it’s not working and I can see my progress. So I try to squelch my own inclination to negate a compliment and just say thank you.
Do you have trouble receiving a compliment? . . . and why?