Twist and shout
work it all out
Pound the pillows
you’ll lose the kilos
Toss and turn
Calories will burn
Wake up thinner
in time for dinner
To attract prey, the red-lipped batfish uses a shiny lure that comes out of its head once it gets really close to its preferred meal, like crabs, mollusks and shrimp Some scientists think the males’ red lips are attractive to females during mating season. To each his own . . .
In the interest of full disclosure we have a tv in every room of our house, with the exception of the bathroom. Several of them are so old they are neither flat, nor high definition. I suspect they will outlast the latest models.
We didn’t have a TV at home until I was 10 years old. It was black & white, there were only 3 channels and programs ended at midnight with test patterns. I grew up reading, playing outside and making up ways to entertain myself with household objects. It may partially explain why I’m relatively creative but doesn’t explain why I have the attention span of a gnat.
Compassion makes you feel better. I saw this first hand when I worked in an outpatient program with people diagnosed with severe psychiatric disorders – schizophrenia, manic depressive disorder and major depression. Many had been hospitalized more than once.
My goal was to help patients manage their illness, so they could stay out of the hospital and live a more normal life. Besides many of the things the program offered to help them, including medication, I believed if I could help them be happier, have more positives in their lives, some of the stressors they felt would be offset and help them stay well.
I had read a research project using compassion exercises and decided to try it. It worked well in the research and I hoped it worked for the patients. Here’s what I did:
Week 1: I asked the patients to spend an hour being really good to themselves, something to pamper themselves. It didn’t matter what they chose as long as they personally enjoyed it. When they shared everyone expressed liking their experiences and felt happy they participated.
Week 2: The patients were to take the same amount of time – an hour – and do something nice for somebody else, something to brighten someone else’s day. It didn’t matter who they chose or what they did as long as it was something kind and giving. When they shared this experience they were even happier! All reported they felt better doing something nice for somebody else for an hour than doing something for themselves.
According to brain science Buddhist monks are some of the happiest people in the world. They are don’t leave their monasteries and do things for others, but meditate on compassion. Research shows compassion meditation changes the brain and makes it happier!