The Fate of young ladies who “demurred”
with Bill Gates, Jeff Bezos or Mark Zuckerberg
There once was a Miss
who declined a kiss
fearing the poor lad
would make her look bad
if the news leaked
about her and this geek.
There’s no mystery
The rest is history
This fearful honey
is out of the money
In my opinion, one of the most “damaging” things we can tell our children, or ourselves for that matter, is that if we set our mind to it and have the perseverance we can do anything, accomplish anything, be anything. WRONG.
No matter how much I may want to be a nuclear physicist my brain simply will not grasp the finer, much less coarser, points of physics or math. No matter how much I might want to be a sumo wrestler, my body, dexterity and athletic ability forbids it.
So if I were going to talk to The Cat in the Hat I would tell him to change what he preaches to:
You have brains in your head
You have feet in your shoes
Try things, succeed OR fail,
You’ve got nothing to lose.
Anyone who has ever had a pet or watched wild critters knows animals are inspirational (I’m told there are even people who find reptiles, insects and other vermin fascinating – myself . . . I prefer mammals . . . but who’s to say . . .).
I’ve had a horse, Misty, dogs and cats. My last kitty Maui, long after his passing, has been particularly inspirational:
- Maui inspired me to write his story as a book to help children know that they too can flourish with patience and persistence.
- Maui’s story is proof the brain, YOURS and mine, is capable of “rewiring” and “repatterning”.
To read Maui’s story click here
- Maui inspired Judy and I to create MAXyourMIND (formerly Catnipblog) to share neuroscience research and how we can all live better, healthier lives harnessing the power of our own minds.
Maui was part Siamese and lived up to the breed’s reputation of being intelligent, playful, social and quite mischievous.
I named him for the jokester god of the Hawaiian islands. What happened to him was no joke.
When Maui was 11 years old, he had a blocked ureter. The treating vet told me Maui would not live. I brought him home and helplessly watched Maui do nothing but lay on the floor with his chin on his favorite water bowl. He didn’t eat for days and his back legs were weak.
One day Maui couldn’t move his back legs at all. The vet had neglected to tell me that cats not eating for 3 days or more can lead to heart problems which can result in a clot that blocks the femoral artery. The blockage causes the back legs to not function. A permanent condition.
The vet repeated Maui could die at any time and suggested putting him down. I was distraught.
Hope against hope, I took Maui home and helplessly watched him drag around with his two front legs. It took him one human year or 7 cat years to rewire his brain and regain use of his back legs.
Maui taught me first hand about persistence, resiliency and how with patience the brain can be retrained . . . and the paws will follow.
For Maui and His Back Legs book, click here
Our human brains, too, have incredible plasticity. Maximize aspects of your life by focusing on what you want and minimize what doesn’t support your wants and needs.
The old sayings “Practice Makes Perfect” and “The Power of Positive Thinking” have been proven accurate through scientific research . . . and Maui.
Be profligate to propagate
Go decorate and waste,
Entice, delight and entertain
With zeal, make your case.
Sing, laugh and dance
The night away, in joy of lushness share
Exuberant displays the way
To win creations ware.
A partner for the dance
Of life will watch you and will know
The vigorous display of yours
Must be a costly show.
And cost is good
Revealing all for everyone to see
A fitness such to leave
you well, with excess energy.
So they will know that your genes are,
with few mutations, fit
By your display of uselessness
Like poetry and wit.