“I don’t want to talk about it”

I should go out in the garden and eat worms.  I’m exhausted.  I hurt all over.   It’s hard not to have self-pity.   I TRY to limit my public and private kvetching because I know it doesn’t help . . . me or you.  There’s scientific basis for the harm we do to ourselves when we talk about trauma – any kind of trauma. 

Acrylic on Canvas, by moi

Acrylic on Canvas, by moi

 If you or anyone you know has a “story of pain” (physical, psychological, social, economic etc) read Carolyn Thomas’ My Heart Sisters excellent post.  Here’s a teeny taste:

Rehashing a traumatic story/event does some of the following:

  • puts our system on high alert
  • triggers inflammation
  • triggers the fight/flight response
  • triggers shutdown mode

On the flip side Carolyn talks about the benefits of sharing with close friends:

“Dr. Laura Cousin Klein and her team found that the credit for women’s unique stress reactions may belong to the hormone oxytocin (also known as the “lovehormone”).  It’s the body’s own wonder drug – released when we nurse our babies, for example, as well as during a woman’s stress response. It’s instinctual, it buffers the fight-or-flight response and it encourages us to tend children and gather with other women instead – what’s called our tend-and-befriend response to stress.  This calming response does not occur in men, says Dr. Klein, because testosterone—which men produce in high levels when they’re under stress—seems to reduce the effects of oxytocin. Estrogen, she adds, seems to enhance it.”

Read the entire post “I don’t want to talk about it“- a Judy’s-Must-Read-Blog-Post.

Are you inspired yet?

In the past several weeks I’ve had new clients who were in pain and/or stressed to the breaking point. As I teach them the quickest, easiest way that lowers the stress response (https://judithwesterfield.com/2011/04/03/me-a-stress-case-i-dont-think-so-this-is-for-you/) I hear the saying:  “You teach what you need to learn” echoing in my mind.

Today I saw this sign jpeg “You teach what you need to learn” echoes again in my mind.

The other thing I often teach is “Don’t WAIT to feel inspired (or loving, or grateful – put in any word you choose)  ACT that way and the feelings will follow.”

I‘m a bit tired and achy today and not feeling very inspired OR inspiring.  The best action of inspiration I can muster up is to post the sign on the blog.  I’ll let you know when inspiring feelings hit me . . . Let me know if they hit you first.

Loneliness, like Chronic Stress, impacts our Immune System

DCP_7260The times when I feel most ‘alone’ is when I’m ill or fatigued.  Those are the times when I also isolate myself the most – little energy or desire to interact. With this research I wonder if I make my condition even worse by  isolating myself when I don’t feel well physically or emotionally?  (The research doesn’t specifically address that question.)  Just wondering . . .

(I’ve edited out a lot of the research description.  If you just want the bare bones read the red areas.)

Loneliness, Like Chronic Stress, Taxes the Immune System, Researchers Find

“New research links loneliness to a number of dysfunctional immune responses, suggesting that being lonely has the potential to harm overall health.”

“Researchers found that people who were more lonely showed signs of elevated latent herpes virus reactivation and produced more inflammation-related proteins in response to acute stress than did people who felt more socially connected.”

“These proteins signal the presence of inflammation, and chronic inflammation is linked to numerous conditions, including:

  • coronary heart disease
  • Type 2 diabetes
  • arthritis
  • Alzheimer’s diseases
  • the frailty and functional decline that can accompany aging.”

“Reactivation of a latent herpes virus is known to be associated with stress, suggesting that loneliness functions as a chronic stressor that triggers a poorly controlled immune response.”

“It is clear from previous research that poor-quality relationships are linked to a number of health problems, including premature mortality and all sorts of other very serious health conditions. And people who are lonely clearly feel like they are in poor-quality relationships,” said Lisa Jaremka, Institute for Behavioral Medicine Research at Ohio State University and lead author of the research.”

“The results are based on a series of studies conducted with two populations: a healthy group of overweight middle-aged adults and a group of breast cancer survivors. The researchers measured loneliness in all studies using the UCLA Loneliness Scale, a questionnaire that assesses perceptions of social isolation and loneliness.”

“The researchers first sought to obtain a snapshot of immune system behavior related to loneliness by gauging levels of antibodies in the blood that are produced when herpes viruses are reactivated.
Participants were 200 breast cancer survivors who were between two months and three years past completion of cancer treatment with an average age of 51 years. Their blood was analyzed for the presence of antibodies against Epstein-Barr virus and cytomegalovirus.”

“Both are herpes viruses that infect a majority of Americans. About half of infections do not produce illness, but once a DSCN1415person is infected, the viruses remain dormant in the body and can be reactivated, resulting in elevated antibody levels, or titers — again, often producing no symptoms but hinting at regulatory problems in the cellular immune system.
Lonelier participants had higher levels of antibodies against cytomegalovirus than did less lonely participants, and those higher antibody levels were related to more pain, depression and fatigue symptoms.”

“Previous research has suggested that stress can promote reactivation of these viruses, also resulting in elevated antibody titers.”

“The same processes involved in stress and reactivation of these viruses is probably also relevant to the loneliness findings,” Jaremka said. “Loneliness has been thought of in many ways as a chronic stressor — a socially painful situation that can last for quite a long time.”‘

“In an additional set of studies, the scientists sought to determine how loneliness affected the production of pro-inflammatory proteins, or cytokines, in response to stress. These studies were conducted with 144 women from the same group of breast cancer survivors and a group of 134 overweight middle-aged and older adults with no major health problems.”

“In both populations, those who were lonelier produced significantly higher levels of a cytokine called interleukin-6, or IL-6, in response to acute stress than did participants who were more socially connected. Levels of another cytokine, tumor necrosis factor-alpha, also rose more dramatically in lonelier participants than in less lonely participants . . .”

“In the study with breast cancer survivors, researchers also tested for levels of the cytokine interleukin 1-beta, which was produced at higher levels in lonelier participants.”
“When the scientists controlled for a number of factors, including sleep quality, age and general health measures, the results were the same.
“We saw consistency in the sense that more lonely people in both studies had more inflammation than less lonely people,” Jaremka said.”
“It’s also important to remember the flip side, which is that people who feel very socially connected are experiencing more positive outcomes.” ‘

The above story is based on materials provided by Ohio State University, via Newswise. The original article was written by Emily Caldwell.