All Work and No Play make Judy a Dull Girl

I am sure I was hit by a truck last night.  As soon as my eyes opened I looked around for evidence: The bedroom walls were standing; The window wasn’t shattered; and Freddie was sleeping peacefully.  Freddie rarely barks but I would hope that if  I was in danger of being hit by a truck he’d warn me.

I woke up feeling exhausted, my back hurt, my legs hurt, my brain hurt and if I hadn’t just had my eye-sight checked I would have sworn there was a 50 pound gorilla sitting on my chest.

Here I have today off and all I want to do is pull the covers over my head and going back to sleep.

So I forced myself to do three things to feel better:

1.  I said my “go-to”  Baha’i prayer when I’m in one of those “woe is me” spaces.

2.  I watched 2 videos on “PLAY!”  (I was so inspired by the 4 minutes I watched the longer 12 minute version too).

3.  Freddie and I went outside to play.

Take your pick: 4-minutes of video, 1/2 – minute of prayer,

12-minutes of video,!*

4 minutes

30 seconds

“O God! Refresh and gladden my spirit.
Purify my heart. Illumine my powers.
I lay all my affairs in Thy hand. Thou art my Guide and my Refuge.
I will no longer be sorrowful and grieved;
I will be a happy and joyful being.
O God! I will no longer be full of anxiety, nor will I let trouble harass me.
I will not dwell on the unpleasant things of life.

O God! Thou art more friend to me than I am to myself. I dedicate myself to Thee, O Lord.”

12 minutes

*You’ll have to find your own play-mate.  

Freddie’s done playing and resting in the sun. 

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http://seriouslythemovie.com/

One of my 100 Year Old Role Models – I’m thinking of learning to play harmonica

Funny, Inspiring and it will put a smile on your face and a bit of love in your heart.  Dorothy Custer is better than meds!

Dorothy Custer is my kinda gal.  All she is missing is the Advanced Style look!

Thanks Sharon & Norris for all your inspiring forwards!

How to Maintain Optimism in the Face of Reality

This was of personal (and professional) interest to me given that the last several days I wasn’t feeling very optimistic.  Seems my brain’s left inferior frontal gyrus was not gyrating.

P.s.  Be patient while the video loads.  If you don’t like what Tali says you will like how she looks (certainly not like a stereo-type neuroscientist).

“Optimism bias is the belief that the future will be better, much better, than the past or present. And most of us display this bias. Neuroscientist Tali Sharot wants to know why: What is it about our brains that makes us overestimate the positive? She explores the question in her book The Optimism Bias: A Tour of the Irrationally Positive Brain.
In the book (and a 2011 TIME magazine cover story), she reviewed findings from both social science and neuroscience that point to an interesting conclusion: “our brains aren’t just stamped by the past. They are constantly being shaped by the future.”

In her own work, she’s interested in how our natural optimism actually shapes what we remember, and her interesting range of papers encompasses behavioral research (how likely we are to misremember major events) as well as medical findings — like searching for the places in the brain where optimism lives. Sharot is a faculty member of the Department of Cognitive, Perceptual and Brain Sciences at University College London.”

Secret Lives

AMAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAZING photography.  (SUBTITITLED for Wendy)

“New videography techniques have opened up the oceans’ microscopic ecosystem, revealing it to be both mesmerizingly beautiful and astoundingly complex. Explore this hidden world that underpins our own food chain — in the first-ever TEDTalk given by a fish …

The Plankton Chronicles Project uses state-of-the-art optics to reveal the beauty and diversity of planktonic organisms. It was initiated by Christian Sardet, Noé Sardet and Sharif Mirshak.”

“Tallulah Talk”

I'm Pacing

My Dears,

I returned to the cardiologist  and had them turn off my pacing assist to hopefully, once and for all, get Miss Judith to stop dramatically clutching her chest when she exerts herself in any mild to moderate way  of which she holds the  belief she’s being very subtle and heroic and doesn’t think I don’t notice all the while hoping I notice, while I pretend I don’t notice because I don’t want to reinforce her melodramatic proclivities.

Miss Judith probably doesn’t even know I had myself “adjusted” because all she’s been doing is sitting around.

Now, to much more important things that everyone should know and to that end I want you to watch  this 3-minute FUNNY film called “Just a Little Heart Attack” with  Elizabeth Banks from the American Heart Association about the symptoms of heart attack in young women.  I found it funny but then again I don’t get out much,

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The video and the excerpt  that follows comes from an excellent and very informative blog  Heart Sisters.  Did I say this is an excerpt?  You must read the entire post and then go on to read the entire blog as it is not just for heart disabilities but everyone with a life altering condition can benefit from the information so go read the blog NOW!

Very graciously yours,

Miss Tallulah PaceHead

P.S.  After you watch the film read what Carolyn Thomas has to say.

 Carolyn Thomas, a Mayo Clinic-trained heart attack survivor writes:

” I have to say that the breast cancer folks have done a fabulous job in raising awareness of their cause. So fabulous, in fact, that they have erroneously convinced women that breast cancer is our biggest health threat.”

It is not, of course.  This year, heart disease will kill six times more women than breast cancer will.  In fact, heart disease kills more women than all forms of cancer combined.”

“. . . Young women can have heart disease, too. Yet when researchers reporting in the New England Journal of Medicine looked at more than 10,000 patients (48% women) who had gone to their hospital Emergency Departments with chest pain or other heart attack symptoms, they found that women under the age of 55 are SEVEN TIMES more likely to be misdiagnosed in mid-heart attack than their male counterparts are. A commonly heard pronouncement delivered by too many Emergency physicians to too many female heart patients is:

‘It’s not your heart.

You’re too young to be having a heart attack’.”

from – http://myheartsisters.org/ a really excellent informative blog.

How to Make the Question: “Am I Enough?” Funny!

Important topic for EVERYONE

and a funny presentation by Brene Brown in the Ted video.  

You will enjoy!

I work with people everyday, helping them intellectually understand and emotionally integrate the truth of who they are.

I would not be able to do this if I hadn’t taken my own journey in my own therapy to learn I was “enough” :  I wasn’t a fraud and I didn’t have to be afraid that others would discover what was wrong with me if I allowed myself to be vulnerable.

I would not be able to work with others if I didn’t believe we all need to live our lives based on that which Jesus taught – LOVE and Baha’u’llah taught – WE ARE ALL ONE.

When I heard this talk by Brene Brown I was blown away to hear her say with science, with humor and with vulnerability what I had learned and struggle to live by.

In moments of shame

practice gratitude and joy

Let myself be seen

In moments of fear

love with my whole heart and soul

Know, I am enough

(P.S. This haiku was written weeks ago!  I am still haiku’d-out!)

What you see is not always what you “get” – rhythm

What’s He Saying? ‘Bahh’ Or ‘Fahh’? A Brain Mystery

“I love illusions, where your brain makes weird things happen. Those of you who come here often have seen some doozies, but this one … oooh, this is one of the strangest.

The question is: Which is more powerful, your eyes or your ears? Watch this clip and experience “The McGurk Effect.” Your ears will feel ashamed.”

“The McGurk Effect is named for a psychologist from Scotland, Harry McGurk, working with John MacDonald. The experiment shows that while our senses seem separate — you wouldn’t think what you see should affect what you hear — it turns out, that’s totally wrong. If our eyes see one thing and our ears hear a different thing, when sight and sound grapple in our brains, the eyes win. Eyes tell ears what to hear. Or so it seems.

Not only that, even if your brain knows this is an illusion, you still can’t hear the truth unless you close your eyes. The illusion is that powerful.

Why Does This Happen?

Does sight always beat sound? Professor Lawrence Rosenblum in the video seems to suggest that experimental results may vary depending on which sense is “more salient.” I’m not sure what that means. Nosing around, I found some experiments where you see lips saying “gah” while the sound is saying “bah” and my brain chooses neither of them, and settles for a middle-of-the-road “dah.” But nowhere could I find an explanation for why my ears keep surrendering to my eyes.

Does anybody know?”

Sight and sound grapple

Ears surrendering to eyes

Our reality?

Earth zips through space-time

All the senses unaware

What’s reality?

Time an illusion

Eternity an unknown

The reality?

Why and what are we ?

 Breathing rhythmically with life

Only God can know

Weird Wonderous World

The return of the Blob Fish or Blob Fish: the prequel**

Strange creature haiku

reality defies words

amazing world ours*

Undersea creatures,

only a mother could love,

Need orthodontia

*Haiku by Rick Yerman          yerman@kw.com                                   **http://phylor.wordpress.com      sub-title by Lorraine                                                         

    

Unrequited Love

Judy's Journal Page

I’m in love.  Unfortunately I’ve not made time to spend with the object of my affection.  Fortunately, my paramour has lots of other lovers and doesn’t miss my attention.  I pine alone. 

This video made me realize that if I am going to feel good about my love affair, attention must be paid.

“There is a reason why art has served as a means of soulful self-expression for centuries upon centuries. All forms of art, from painting to dancing to music, are very personal and emotional experiences — both for the artists and the viewers.

While it is a common experience to fall in love with a certain artwork, scientists now have evidence that shows the brain reacts similarly when viewing artwork and when falling in love. New research by Semir Zeki, Professor of Neuroesthetics at University College London demonstrates that viewing a beautiful work of art creates the same chemical response as love. Both experiences trigger the feel-good chemical dopamine. So if you’re missing that special someone, perhaps partake in a daily dose of art inspiration.”

And even if you aren’t missing “that special someone” take in a daily dose of creative expression.

We all can use as much dopamine as we can get.

Fun is Serious Business (X-rated)

When I viewed this video  about play, creativity, connection and resiliency it brought to mind the workshop I offered several years ago called “A Day of Play!”.  I advertised it as FUN – how we play, why we play and the benefits of play.  No one signed up.

“Fun” & “Play” possibly created an impression of being frivolous, indulgent and largely a waste of productive time.  ( I should have titled it “Working at Play”)

 If play is encoded in our DNA I wonder if taking play more seriously and doing work more playfully could create physical, emotional and spiritual wellbeing?

Try Harder to be Wrong

Couples counseling, for me, is more difficult than individual counseling.  I have to maintain a balance so that each feels heard, each feels safe, each feels some validation of who they are and what their point of view is.  Much of the time I succeed and some of the time I get fired.

Couples come into therapy/counseling each convinced their own viewpoint is correct. They work hard in therapy to prove their partner’s viewpoint is wrong.

Much of the time I tell them they are both right.  This often stops them in their tracks (IF they are listening to me instead of formulating the argument in their mind to convince me they are the one who is right),

After watching this video I’ve decided I’m not going to tell couples they are each right.  I’m going to tell them they are both WRONG.

It starts off a bit slowly (from my viewpoint)  but I encourage you to listen through to the end.

 You can go wrong.

A = Age Activated Attention Deficit Disorder

I think I remember I forgot to write a post for “A” in the Blogging Challenge A – Z

And just in case I forgot the letter “D” this will satisfy that too.

Thanks Joyce for the video,  if it was you who sent it to me.

 If you weren’t the one who sent it “Thank you” to whomever sent it to me.

 If no one sent it and I found it myself then forget it.

Reasons Dogs Bite Their Owners..by Max

Dear ALL My New Best Friends,

I want you to see this so that you never, ever subject your animal to public humiliation.  Look at the incredibly sad expressions.  Look at the pain in their eyes as proof of what we put up with to humor you.  Talk about unconditional love . . .

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Dear My Best Friend Aunt Joyce,

I’m so glad you sent me these pictures so I could have a reason to blog.  My human limits me, you know.

Lickingly LLLLLLLL,

Max

P.S. What do YOUR animal best friends say about this?